According to a study conducted by Planned Parenthood, as many as 1 in 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex. This is typically due to lack of clitoral stimulation during sex (penis in vagina).
MOST women need to have their clitoris stimulated in order to have an orgasm, and let’s face it, clitoral stimulation can be difficult during sex. Without clitoral stimulation many women find it difficult to nearly impossible to climax. Even with clitoral stimulation not every woman will experience an orgasm in the same way. Orgasms feel different for each individual woman and may also feel different for women with each sexual experience.
In order to achieve an orgasm, women need to be familiar with the anatomy of their body. Did you know that the clitoris has over 8 THOUSAND NERVE FIBERS, and its only purpose is to stimulating pleasure!!!!
To start with, did you know that the clitoris much like the penis is made of erectile tissue that allows for blood to fill and engorge the area when aroused? Also, the clitoris is made from the same embryonic tissue that makes the penis.
Like men and erections, the clitoral tissue becomes engorged with arousal, however the clitoris does not have a refractory period, meaning there is no need for recovery after orgasm… Making multiple orgasms a real thing!
The clitoris is made up of the head (glans) shaft (body) and legs:
The Head or Glans: Easy to locate known as the button. This is the only visible part of the clitoris. During peak arousal the clitoral head will retract under its hood.
Shaft or Body: To find place your fingers on top of your clitoral hood and feel for a tubular structure beneath the skin the shaft. It is covered by the hood and is about 1.5 inches in length.
Legs: From the base of the shaft, you can find the clitoral legs. Approximately four inches in length they run the length of the inner edge of the pubic arch. Locate by feeling on either side of the shaft and press downward.
The Head, Shaft and Legs of the clitoris work together during arousal as they all become engorged with the final release of pleasure.
Let’s face it if you want to have an orgasm you may need to change things up and work at it a bit. It is OK to take charge of your sexual pleasure. Masturbate and experimenting on your own. Know your own body first, that way you can guide your partner to stimulate you in just the right spot. Find out what turns YOU on. A different position, toys (see our product section for ideas), massage, or role playing. Once you know don’t be afraid to communicate that to your partner. When your partner is empowered with the knowledge of how to please you, it may really enhance your time together and your relationship as a whole.
Remember "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."
- Albert Einstein.
Kerner, I.(2004). She Comes First. New York: Harper.
Planned Parenthood (2017) www.plannedparenthood.org
Winston, S. (2010). Women's Anatomy of Arousal. Kingston, NY: Mango Garden Press.